Based on the guide “Turned On: Tapping into the Energy That Attracts Everything”, true attraction is less about external effort and more about cultivating an inner energy. This energy, often misunderstood and limited to sexual contexts, is described as a primal, creative life-force that influences everything we desire, create, and connect with. Different traditions have referred to this energy in various ways, such as Jing in Taoism, Shakti in Tantra, and Kundalini in Yoga. Modern science also touches upon this through the interplay of biochemical drive, neurological activity, and emotional intention.
The guide suggests that many people operate with this energy suppressed due to factors like shame, repression, and disconnection from the body. Signs of this could include feeling emotionally or creatively flat, relying on external validation, experiencing fatigue, attracting similar disconnected individuals, and losing a sense of aliveness. When this energy is “turned on,” individuals radiate presence, naturally drawing in desired experiences and connections.
Turning this energy back on involves addressing internal “static” or blocks. Common blocks include sexual shame inherited from societal or familial messages, emotional repression which dulls all energy, overthinking that disconnects from the body where this energy resides, overstimulation from digital sources leading to energetic drain, disconnection from the body itself, and the fear of being “too much” or too powerful. Overcoming these blocks is not just a mental exercise but requires rewiring the nervous system to feel safe in expressing this energy. The first step in clearing this static is simply noticing when you disconnect or suppress your energy.
Activating this inner current is an embodied experience, not a performance for others. It involves dropping into the body through practices like conscious breathing, awakening sensation, and intentional movement. Breathwork, such as the Embodied Breath Technique, is highlighted as a way to shift out of stress and into a receptive, turned-on mode by stimulating the vagus nerve. Movement, even for a few minutes daily, helps to release stuck energy and reconnect with the body. Cultivating sensation by consciously engaging the senses in everyday activities increases aliveness and builds the foundation of sexual energy as pleasure through presence. Practices like the Energy Generator Ritual combine these elements to build and circulate this energy internally.
When this inner energy is activated, attraction becomes a natural consequence rather than something to chase. This operates on the principle of resonance, where your energetic frequency attracts matching experiences and people. Radiating from this place of inner alignment is different from ego-driven performance; it’s a calm, unbothered presence that is felt by others. This embodied confidence is not something that can be faked. It creates a feedback loop where self-sourced energy leads to attraction, further reinforcing a sense of power and reducing the need to chase or perform. Stepping into this energy can elicit varied reactions from others, requiring groundedness and sovereignty.
The concept of polarity is also introduced as the voltage that supercharges sexual energy, describing the dynamic tension between contrasting masculine (directional, grounded, focused) and feminine (expressive, fluid, magnetic) energetic forces present in everyone. A lack of polarity can lead to a fizzling of sexual current, while conscious play with these energies creates magnetic tension. Cultivating these energies involves different practices for each, and conscious awareness of which energy is being embodied is key.
Presence, defined as undivided attention and embodied awareness, is highlighted as a crucial element of magnetism. It allows others to feel seen and creates a palpable energetic space. Struggling with presence often stems from a fear of fully feeling oneself, including discomfort and vulnerability. Presence involves both containment (holding one’s energy) and consciousness (awareness of self and others). Cultivating presence involves practices like body awareness scans, eye contact exercises, slowing down movements, and micro-meditations. The “3-Second Rule” of pausing before speaking or acting is suggested to shift presence.
Beyond romantic attraction, this turned-on energy is also the fuel for ambition, creativity, and leadership. The same life-force energy used for creation can be channeled into work, mission, or art, leading to increased creativity, confidence, presence, and resilience. Disconnecting from the body inhibits this creative flow, and desire itself acts as a compass pointing towards alignment. Practices like sexual transmutation, which redirects sexual energy into creative output, and understanding the neurology of erotic focus, which stimulates motivating neurotransmitters, are discussed as ways to harness this power.
Protecting this cultivated energy through energetic boundaries is also essential. Energetic leaks occur when attention or emotional/sexual energy is unconsciously given away through seeking approval, engaging in draining interactions, or saying yes out of obligation. Clear boundaries, rooted in the body and a sense of self-sovereignty, act as filters that protect one’s energy and increase magnetism. Practices like the “Energetic Shield” exercise help in containing one’s energy field.
Reclaiming desire is framed not as a problem to be solved, but a power to be cultivated. Fear of desire stems from its inherent vulnerability and the potential for rejection, but the guide argues that suppressing it leads to anxiety and obsession. Learning to hold erotic tension without immediately resolving it is presented as an advanced form of attraction that builds capacity and power. Holding desire allows for magnetism, while chasing it leads to neediness. The “Desire Meditation” is a practice for staying with the physical sensation of desire without acting on it. Owning desire without attachment is an expression of erotic sovereignty.
Conscious expression of this turned-on energy involves sharing one’s aliveness authentically without shrinking, leaking, or performing. Being sexually alive is about embodying this energy in everyday interactions, not just during sex. Common misuses of this energy include shrinking (censoring desire), leaking (seeking external validation), and performing (acting based on perceived expectations). Conscious expression involves feeling desire without collapsing into it, expressing truth without manipulation, and owning attraction without needing reciprocation. Practices like “Speak the Spark” encourage naming the energy in the room without expectation. Expressing desire without needing fulfillment is highlighted as a magnetic trait. Radiating without overexposing involves conscious containment and checking the intention behind expression.
Mastering erotic tension involves building and holding it without rushing to release. Tension is the space of unspoken desire and building energy. Rushing to break tension often stems from discomfort and a confusion of relief with satisfaction. Holding tension builds capacity in the nervous system to stay open under pressure. Practices like “Riding the Edge” involve noticing the urge to resolve tension and instead breathing into it and staying present. Holding tension consciously is a co-creation of heightened awareness, not a manipulation. Using space in communication and interaction also builds tension and power.
Sensual intelligence is the ability to deeply feel and tune into pleasure through the senses, leading to a magnetic aura. It involves noticing subtle sensations internally and externally. Activating the senses through practices like the “5-Senses Ritual” and the “60-Second Pleasure Scan” rewires the nervous system to find pleasure in subtlety and increases body awareness. Breathing through sensation amplifies pleasure and depth. Sensual people move, speak, and interact differently, being more present and attuned to others. Making everyday activities sensual also contributes to being constantly “turned on” from within.
Finally, sacred sexuality is presented as an approach to sex as a conscious, transformative, and deeply felt experience, moving beyond performance and focusing on presence, receiving, and merging without losing oneself. It is a shift from transactional sex to transformation. The energetic dimension of sex involves using breath, eye contact, and touch as ways to connect energetically. Slowness in sexual encounters increases depth and allows for the building of tension and trust. A sacred lover gives presence, tunes into the moment, and treats the body as sacred. Sacred sex is real and can be intense, but the intent is to meet oneself and the partner more fully. True sacred intimacy is activating and leaves individuals more grounded, lit up, and powerful.
Integrating these practices means embodying them consistently, becoming the flame that attracts everything by staying on and rooted in one’s authentic energy. Building a “Turn-On Baseline” through daily rituals helps maintain this state. The journey involves remembering the sacred, primal, creative, and magnetic nature of sexual energy and trusting in its power. Attraction becomes a natural consequence of being fully oneself.